What is the difference between a fetish and a preference?
According to the dictionary definition, a fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc. So, I have a question… Is it possible to have a penis fetish? What are the symptoms?
I think the important word here is “abnormal”. I would imagine a fetish is an “obsession”, like a pantie fetish involves panties to initiate an arousal or a booty fetish would require accessing big booties or pictures of booties in order to perform. At some degree, I am sure everyone has a fetish. But is having a preference the same as a fetish?
My taste buds crave broccoli over cauliflower but that is a bit different because it isn’t sexual plus I don’t obsess over it. I do however like “pretty” man feet, which could be an obsession but I haven’t seen feet that mesmerizing lately. Although, there was this one time…. never mind.
What about race? Can you fetishize a whole race? Meaning, an “abnormal” obsession with one group of “people” such as blond haired blue eyed women. Is it possible to be mesmerized with a certain ethnicity where you insist that you are unable to perform sexually with no other race other than that one. Here is another question, “Does America have a fetish with blond haired blue-eyed women?” Maybe that isn’t a fetish at all. Maybe it’s a form of racism against those that are not blond… or maybe that is something different all together.
Racism is defined as prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one’s own race is superior. Okay, so maybe if you have a fetish over one race, you are racist against all others. In some ways, you find that race superior to others. No? You just like blonds?? Oh
I am fully aware that there are some freaks out there that have extreme unhealthy fetishes that objectify people with the intent of self gratification irregardless of the individual. These unhealthy infactuations are akin to mental illness and can be disturbing or result in harm. There are many others that are harmless fetishes that add to the spark and sexuality of a relationship. As long as it is healthy and there is mutual agreement, I say… continue.
I also know that there are sensitive people that worry they are subject to a fetish and the eyes of their admirer doesn’t see them as an individual. For both Asian people and Black women this is especially concerning given history.