Its Not A Game… Sex Makes It Real

Life is about strategy. You can’t just be doing shit without thinking. I have come to a conclusion that there are two types of men… The first ones are absolutely marriage material and second ones are men that you can have no indiscretion with. Those players and freaks that you plan to leave anyway. The young, immature ones that you’d be stupid to marry. You know the ones. The ones that aren’t serious about life and you don’t plan to see in your future.  I sound like a dude huh. Right! Just be sure you can distinguish the difference. It’s not a game if you know what you want. If you are just casually strolling through life looking for love in ditches, then you will turn up a rodent. I have done that more than once.

Women can do what they want. You meet a cute guy quickly give into your sexual urges. Women want sex as much as men do but they don’t react to casual sex in the same way men do.  Here’s what I learned:

“A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’. This lowers our defenses and makes us trust people more, says Dr Arun Ghosh, a GP specializing in sexual health at the Spire Liverpool Hospital.

It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produce more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with a man after sex.

However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or marriage material — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term relationship ends.

Men, on the other hand, instead of getting a surge of bonding hormone receive a surge of simple pleasure.

‘The problem is that when a man has an orgasm, the main hormone released is dopamine — the pleasure hormone. And this surge can be addictive,’ says Dr Ghosh.

That’s why so many more men tend to suffer from sex addiction.”–just-makes-men-want-MORE.html#ixzz4SMlNup6h

With all this in mind, it seems that sex makes a women crazy. No that’s not true. Hormones make women crazy. Sex makes men crazy.

I have a girlfriend who met a guy when she flew to see her family back East for the weekend.  He was a business acquaintance of her sister.  She saw him and decided that she really liked this guy. They were at a function where they were drinking and having a great time and he seemed to really be receptive of the attention. She ended up spending the evening talking to him until it was time to go home.  He offered to take her back to her family’s house so they could talk longer. Although she felt like it wasn’t her intention to do so, she spent the night with him.  

The next day, they texted and talked up until she left to return to her home. Once home, she continued her excited exchange of texts with him only to find they had cooled significantly on his end. He still would reply every once in awhile and of course he “liked” some of her Facebook posts. She was so convinced that she had met the man of her dreams that she was finally sure that moving back East was her destiny.  

He said he was into her. He said they would make a great couple. He seemed to show that he was into her. So she slept with him right away. Now I am afraid that her hormones are making her crazy.

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